Hot Vanilla Flirtations

I'd love to hear if single males find this to be as erotic as I did.

If you’ve read our blog before, you know that Leila is an absolute goddess of flirtation. We’ve had some very interesting experiences as a result–often in vanilla settings. On Saturday night, we were at our favorite neighborhood bar when just such an opportunity occurred. Leila was sitting on a barstool to my right, which happened to be next to a spot where the bartenders served up their drinks, so there was a constant stream of patrons. She wore a light silky blue top that flowed over her voluptuous curves (braless), with skinny spaghetti straps exposing her sexy shoulders and criss-crossing over her exposed back. Sparkly earrings dangling on her sexy neck, wet & shiny red lip-gloss making her magnetic smile even more alluring.

We enjoyed the cover band and had some fun talking with a local guy who left early, but soon after she commented on the bartender preparing 5 vodka tonics (one of her favorites). Just then, a handsome young man came up to pay for them, standing so close to her right side they had to be touching. To approach the bar he had to slide between the barstools, so he was slightly facing her; stunned I am sure by the beauty he had just encountered. Since Leila was seated on her barstool, he hovered somewhat above her as he paid for the round. If you can imagine, his head was above hers, sort of looking down over her shoulder and leaning in toward the bar as he paid the tab.

From that position, he could have just picked up his drinks, turned around, and left. But as he prepared to carry several of the glasses back to his crew, Leila leaned back and to the right, exposing her sexy neck as she looked up at him. “Don’t get me wet,” she said.

My jaw nearly hit the bar. He stopped dead in his tracks, putting his glasses back down. He touched her bare arm, saying, “Oh, I promise. Offering a glass to her - would you like a taste, he said?” At this point, her head was tilted back and he was leaning down, gazing into her eyes as he spoke almost directly into her mouth, so close that it almost appeared they would kiss.

Phew!!! The band had just taken a break, and I desperately needed the men’s room, so I excused myself, hoping they would continue this exchange of flirtatious double entendres. Alas, when I returned, he was nowhere to be found. Just another vanilla male not inclined to go any further with a woman who was clearly not there alone.

Too bad for him. But it sure did get both of us hot!!!

 

Single males – what do you think? Could she/we made it any clearer that it was safe to continue the flirtation? Perhaps he was committed to his friends, so wouldn’t have engaged any further in any case, but it would have been fun!

You Can Lead Them Into Temptation, But You Can't Make Them...

If you've read our very first post, you know that our biggest motivation for this blog is to create a "HotWife Guide.. for Single Males". In our experience, single males who know how to engage with a Hot Wife AND her husband are exceedingly rare. We hoped to provide some tips, along with sharing our erotic experiences, in hopes of helping more men (and couples) navigate their way into this branch of the lifestyle.

Many of the stories we've shared took place in vanilla settings, because even though the San Francisco Bay Area is sexually liberal in general, there still aren't many lifestyle events here that accept single males. That is much to our regret. We've connected with a few quality guys through lifestyle sites, but that has also been rare. There is just way too much of a Craigslist booty-call mentality online.

So, you can imagine how excited we were to plan a trip to the Temptation Resort in Cancun, for our very first lifestyle-friendly vacation. We were looking forward to meeting some of the couples we've connected with on Kasidie, but were also excited to know that Temptation allows single males.

So Two Straight Guys Walk Into a Gay Bar....

It's been about one year since our last blog post on HotWife4MFM, but rest assured we're still out here enjoying sexy adventures as much our hectic schedules allow. There just hasn't been time to write about them.

Nevertheless, it's the Memorial Day weekend, so I have a little spare time and I just have to share a hot story about last night. On Saturday, Leila and I headed up to San Francisco to revisit places where we enjoyed some of our earliest HotWife experiences.

On one of our first dates, when I picked up Leila for a similar drive to the city, she was wearing a long coat to protect against the evening's chill. Little did I know the surprise she had planned for me. After she got into my car, she took off the coat to reveal a very skimpy halter top that bared her back and shoulders, with just enough material to accentuate the shape of her luscious breasts. I had a very difficult time concentrating on the road! That halter top was sort of like the one she wore last night.. which you can see in the picture here.

On this latest trip, our first stop was our favorite sushi restaurant. There's something very erotic about watching a sexy woman eat sushi, don't you agree? Leila sat with her back to the wall facing into the room. I couldn't see behind, so unbeknownst to me, a gentleman soon walked past and winked at her. She smiled back at him, so I could tell she enjoyed the attention. We lingered over the sushi and sake, and just like that date years ago, the seductive foreplay had me rock hard all through dinner!

After dinner, we headed up to a bar where a chance meeting six years ago led to one of the most unexpectedly torrid sexual encounters we've ever had. That story is best told in long form, so I can't do it justice here. Look for our book sometime in the future <smile>. Some might call it a gay bar, since it is certainly popular with the LGBT community. But it's also an old-time  piano bar, and they happen to serve the best (and most reasonably priced) martinis in the city! We've had many great times there, and the friendly bartenders always remember Leila.

I grabbed one of the high tables just off from the bar while Leila got in line for the rest room. They only have the one bathroom, so there's always a wait. That can be a good thing though, since you never know who you'll meet in the queue! It's dark in that corner, but I could see there were a few people in front of Leila. Sure enough, someone had already struck up a conversation with her.

When she returned, we were just getting settled and preparing to order when a guy came over to our table. This time my back was to the wall so I saw him approach Leila, who was sitting closer to the main walkway. The way he came up to her without hesitation, I assumed she had already met him in the bathroom line, but they had not. He looked friendly in a swarthy sort of way. As it turns out, Chris is a mix of Indian and European heritage. "So, how's it going?", he said. Leila flashed that irresistibly magnetic smile, and the conversation just took off from there.

One of the most unique things about her is how she loves to meet people, and find out all about them. I have often told her that men just about never get to encounter a sexy and desirable woman who is also warm and engaging. Most guys are intimidated by such a beautiful woman, and would never expect such an inviting response to their approach. Leila is a unique exception. In "Hot Wives, MFM, and the uninitiated Single Male", I wrote about one of our previous experiences where the guy just couldn't deal with the opportunity that stood right in front of him.  Somehow, I could immediately tell that Chris was different. He obviously had game.

Since it appeared to me that Leila and Chris had met, I wasn't bothered that he focused so much attention on her. In fact, I want guys to be bold enough to show their attraction. Also,  given the location, he could have been gay. From Leila's questions, it quickly became apparent that he was straight. He said that he had come to the bar with a gay male friend, who had already picked up a guy and gone home with him. Chris asked more questions of us, such as where we lived. It seemed a bit odd that he first asked Leila, and then repeated the question to me, but I didn't dwell on it.  I thought it was obvious that we were married. Maybe wishful thinking on his part?

Chris kept a respectful distance as we talked, but his attraction for Leila was still obvious. It was my turn to go for the bathroom, and I also thought a good opportunity to let them chat one-on-one to see what developed. As I stood in line, it was no surprise to see him lean in closer to her. Touching her for the first time, he let his hand linger as he gently stroked her bare arm and shoulder. Things were heating up!

When I came back to the table, he was still standing closer, but no longer touching Leila. He excused himself to go outside for a smoke. She laughed a bit when I asked how their private chat went.

"Oh my god", she said, "it was so funny! He thought you were gay!" 

I suppose that I could have been offended, but it all started to add up. Chris had only come to this bar on the suggestion of his gay pal, and hadn't been there before, so he probably assumed all the other guys were gay! Just as he was acting as wingman for his friend, he assumed Leila was doing the same for me. I'm sure he was ecstatic to find such an attractive woman in his midst.

Chris' mistaken assumption explained why he asked us separately where we lived. She said he was embarrassed, and repeatedly apologized. It's fascinating how a guy's mind works, especially when he's horny and in the presence of such a hot woman as Leila. Here we were, just two straight guys in a gay bar. Two very lucky straight guys with the hottest woman in the world between us!

I told Leila how I saw Chris was comfortable enough to get closer, and touch her arm.

"Yes, and he was rubbing his hard cock on my thigh," she said.

"Did you like that," I asked?

"Mmm.. yes.. he's nice."

When Chris returned to our cocktail table, I let him know I was OK with his faux pas. I said I was actually pleased that he was bold enough to approach Leila, because I enjoy showing off my gorgeous HotWife, and I appreciate when men are not afraid to express their attraction. I shared that we've actually written about the subject, and that we have a blog about engaging with single males. At that revelation, his eyes widened and he immediately abandoned the socially acceptable distance between his and Leila's bodies. He moved against her thigh once again, and put his arm around her. She leaned into his shoulder, and gazed at him intensely with that look that says "I know you want me.. now it's your move."

With those revelations now out, the conversation immediately turned sexual. Unlike Josh in that earlier encounter, Chris intuitively understood that we are not your average vanillas.

"I once fucked a friend's wife while he watched," he abruptly declared.

"Ahh, so you've been with other couples," Leila replied.

Her eyes also lit up, and she redirected her gaze towards me. I could tell that Leila was getting aroused by the developing MFM scenario. 

"What are you two looking for?," Chris asked.

I shared my usual response with Chris. A couple with a HotWife like Leila doesn't need to look for single guys, they are numerous. We are first and foremost driven by the enjoyment of meeting attractive people that we like spending time with, and attraction means both intellectually and physically. Our sexuality is a huge part of who we are, and the great thing about people in the lifestyle is that they don't hide it. We don't seek out partners for random sexual activities, but when we meet someone and establish mutual attraction, we're open to the possibilities. Call it "friends with benefits" if you will, though we think that's not a great term either.

Unfortunately, just as we were getting past the flirtation stage, the waiter came by for last call. Holy crap! It was nearly 2 AM already, and we had an hour drive home ahead of us!  We had no choice but to continue the conversation outside before they shoved us out and locked the doors. Also unfortunately, once the fresh air hit so did the alcohol in Chris' drinks. He looked a bit inebriated, so we made sure that he planned to get home via Uber.

We were all very horny, but we would have to put this night down as another serendipitous meeting, and hope to pick it up from there next time. If Chris had invited us back to his place.. who knows? But I think that his gay pal is actually his roommate, and that would have been awkward.

Chris walked us to our car, where I watched as he pulled Leila's body into his as they exchanged their first kiss. I was aroused as I saw her slip her tongue into his mouth, in that erotic dance that works like instant Viagra on me. I think it had the same effect on him. As she positioned herself in the passenger seat, he bent over for more, and I saw Leila run her hand up his leg and stroke his bulging erection. He literally collapsed at her touch, falling into the car on top of her. Damn powerful stuff those Leila kisses!

Fortunately, that wasn't nearly the end of the evening for me and Leila. We exchanged text numbers with Chris, and as soon as we hit the road she was receiving messages from him. They continued their good nights as she leaned over and stroked my throbbing cock, telling me how wet she was. I undid my pants to give her more access, then reached over to run my hand between her legs and up to her pussy.

Leila was wearing skin tight pants to best show off her shapely ass. She reclined her seat back, and slid the pants down her legs. Taking my hand, she urgently guided me under her thong, pressing my fingers into her wet opening. Doing all this while driving is a test of flexibility, not to mention concentration, but I've had practice. Also, it's a long, nearly empty highway home at 2 AM.

Our night in San Francisco had an abundance of déjà vu. The very first time I saw Leila stroke another guy's cock, at a swinger club in the city, she was just as aroused as this. It was all new to me then, but that's where I began to learn the excitement of HotWife MFM fun. Just like that first time, as soon as my fingers slid into her she immediately let out the distinctive moan of an impending g-spot orgasm. I could tell by touch that she would soon be squirting against my hand. The feeling in her vagina when her g-spot is aroused is very distinctive. I don't mind her drenching the seats. They're leather, and have been squirted on several times before <BIG smile>.

That's how we continued down the highway for nearly an hour. I fucked Leila with one hand while driving with the other. I love finding that smooth spot, just past the spongy tissue near the opening, that sends her into orgasmic convulsions. Ten orgasms? Twenty? Who knows? Her panties were soaked, and her moaning just went on and on!

We finally pulled into our garage past 3 AM, and I couldn't wait to fuck Leila. She wanted it bad too, even telling me I could fuck her ass, which really isn't her thing. We tore off our clothes on the way to the bedroom. As she lie face down in her favorite position, I started with a big, thick dildo that I pulled from the night stand. I wanted her to feel that sensation of another cock. She was dying for the real thing, and MFM is all about sharing, so I quickly slid into her.

Leila was cumming again in no time,  and her g-spot was throbbing against my cock. I fingered her anus and fucked her harder, causing even more moans until we were both spent.

It's too bad that Chris did so much to bring about Leila's arousal, but didn't get to share in the fulfillment this time. Hey man... Just text us at 80-2HOT-7129, email us at two_hotlovers@yahoo.com, or find us on Kasidie! We can't wait to have more MFM fun!

Vanilla Crush

I could sense their attraction when we first met. We were having Nick build a piece of custom furniture, and Leila was excited to discuss our design ideas. From the samples of his work we had seen, we knew he was a talented craftsman. In person, his laid back manner and soft-spoken nature made him very easy to talk to.

Leila always loves talking to interesting people, regardless of any sexual attraction, and her passion for the project already had her excited. While Nick (she would say later) wasn't strikingly handsome, he is lean and fit, with sort of a surfer look in his Maui T-shirts. I saw instant chemistry there.

Once the project was underway, Leila and I visited his workshop to see the progress he had made. It would be a good opportunity to see how he worked, and we were interested to better understand how such a complex piece of furniture was put together.  It was very cool to see our collaborative design come to life in this intermediate stage, before it was complete and the complexity of its construction and assembly would be less evident.

To capture the moment, I took a picture of Leila and Nick in front of his work. He stood close with one arm politely around her back, holding a small piece of his fine detailed carpentry with the other. Both had big smiles, Leila glowing with that seductive look that makes men want to kiss her, and Nick bearing more of a bashful grin.

That would have been it for our visit, but the two were immersed in a lively conversation, branching off to subjects that had nothing to do with our project. I could tell how much Leila was enjoying talking to him, her energy was glowing as she shared random thoughts and asked questions to get to know him better.

At first, I thought we might be keeping him from going home at the end of a long day, but his cell phone rang several times and he just ignored it. It was like I wasn't even there as he gazed at her. No problem. This was a moment when it's fun to just stand back a bit and watch, to see Leila's irresistible charms at work.

As the chatting went on, and Nick segued into his concerns about the health effects of plastic bottled water, I knew he was hooked. How did we get onto that subject? It no longer mattered what time it was, or the topic, he didn't want Leila to leave! He eventually touched her arm as they talked, a sure sign of his attraction. That was all for this meeting, however, and we soon said our goodbyes and wished him a good evening.

Afterward, Leila and I talked about what had happened, and she said "I really like him". There was something about him that she couldn't describe, a certain connection, but I knew it when I saw it. He made her comfortable, but at the same time there was an indescribable chemistry that made both of them a bit nervous. I teased her about the attraction, and she said she would enjoy having him as a friend. Maybe we could invite him over for drinks or dinner after the project was done.

Later, Leila admitted there was more to the attraction, but where do you go with it? Was it possible to introduce Hot Wife play to a "vanilla" guy, without it turning into a disaster? We discussed this question in an older post on "Hot Wives, MFM, and the uninitiated Single Male", but this was different. That situation was in a bar, where flirting and hookups are expected. This time, the connection started out as a business relationship.

Nick surely wouldn't risk losing a client by making a move on the wife. He's not that kind of guy. We imagined he was just as perplexed about how to respond to the feelings as we were. If she opened up to him in a suggestive way, he would likely think she was fooling around behind my back. Leila and I talked about it, but didn't come up with any answers. I suggested taking things slow, make him comfortable in knowing that she enjoyed spending time with him, and go from there.

The next opportunity arose when Nick prepared some stain samples for us to compare finishes. There was no reason for me to go with her, so Leila stopped by his shop on her way home from work to pick it up. He came out to meet her at the car, and seemed excited to see her again as she followed him into the wood shop. He said he couldn't remember where he put the sample, and took her to a back room to look for it while they talked. As they stood shoulder to shoulder looking at color samples, Leila wondered what would happen if her lips brushed against his cheek softly. I imagine he was thinking something similar, the way he stared repeatedly at her mouth and seemed to 'get lost' in his thoughts at times.

Though picking up the stain sample was a simple task, they once again were immersed in conversation for an hour, as his cell phone rang several times. They discovered mutual interests, in an upcoming antique show that she wanted to attend.  I'm not as into that, but Nick told her "I'd love to go with you", if she couldn't find anyone else. Now that was an interesting proposition! Perhaps it would offer an opportunity to connect on more friendly terms, away from his work. He obviously was warming up to Leila, surprising her by calling her "hun", and walking her back to her car when she left.

Now, Leila had to admit that the attraction was mutual. She could feel it. They were almost like nervous school kids, sensing the sexual tension but not knowing what to do about it. After spending some time alone in the workshop with Nick, Leila wondered if he ever brought other women there, maybe even had sex there!

Sitting next to each other on the sofa that evening, recounting her meeting, we were both getting turned on.

"What did you imagine doing with him?", I asked as I kissed a particularly sensitive spot on her neck.

"I thought about him bending me over a workbench", Leila cooed softly as her breasts rose with each progressively more shallow breath, "and taking me from behind."

I was hard as a rock, and stood up to pull out my hardon as Leila laid down. I brought my cock to her lips, "and I want to taste him", she oozed.

This led to a furious fuck session, right there on our couch, with both of us talking dirty about fantasies of what she would do with Nick. We were left in a state of orgasmic bliss. Talking more after, Leila was still uncertain what, if anything, to do next. It was likely to never go further, we thought. Regardless, the fantasy role playing sex that this new connection energy had stimulated was hot!

I encouraged her to be more flirtatious next time, touch him if an opportunity arose, or simply tell him how much she enjoyed spending time with him. She protested, "I can't do that!"

But I knew she wanted to.

We didn't have to wait long for another encounter. Nick called a few days later to say he used the stains we selected, and would like us to come see if one coat gave us the color we wanted. He only had a short time before he needed to leave the workshop, however, so I suggested that Leila ask him if he could do it later. I wanted them to be able to spend time together without any pressure to cut it off.

Leila apparently had other ideas, sort of a "leave him wanting more" strategy that would drive me wild! It was another warm pre-summer day, and she chose a deep purple tank top that clung to her shapely bosom like a second skin, exposing her sexy shoulders and enough décolletage to leave any man's tongue hanging. Thank you global warming!

Her yoga pants were snug as well, showing off her sexy ass like they were painted on. She often makes me wish I had two sets of hands, it's so hard to choose where to fondle. Or.. perhaps have another man provide the second pair of hands to explore my sex goddess' body in a passionate MFM!

When I went into our bathroom that morning, Leila totally surprised me. It was only 9:30 AM, but she was putting on makeup as if we were going out to a club on a Saturday night. I watched as she put on her eyeliner, followed by mascara. Although she had responded shyly to my suggestions to be more forward in her flirtations, she was now clearly in a mood to turn up the heat!

When Leila applied her mascara, and her beautiful long lashes fluttered seductively, it really turned me on! She finished with her sexiest red lipstick, which was sure to make him swoon. Leila pulled out the clip that held up her hair. With a sexy shake of her head, her brunette tresses cascaded over her bare shoulders, and she was off in a rush.

Since Nick had to leave 30 minutes after she arrived, their encounter would be short but sweet. He would get an eyeful, but couldn't linger this time, and his workers were just starting their day. When Leila arrived, Nick was in his office, and she walked up to him and immediately touched his arm as she said hello. He turned and looked awestruck, scanning her up and down to take in the view. On the previous visit, he had teased her about wearing a sweater, even though our temperatures had already risen into the 90s. Now he had the full view of her voluptuous body, and she said it left him stammering.

He had little time to react, as Leila followed the greeting with a warm hug. As she showed me later, her lips "sort of brushed" his neck as she wrapped her arms around him. They separated, and both let out nervous giggles, she said. I could imagine the sexual tension in that scene! He was dumbfounded, but no doubt aroused!

They quickly got down to the business of reviewing the stain finish, before he had to leave for his appointment. He once again called her "hun", and touched her arm more than once, expressing his affection in a way that I imagine feels safe to him.

Later that evening, Leila and I talked about her latest encounter, and how it made her feel. This is exactly what I love about our Hot Wife play, sharing in her sexual empowerment and having that energy flow back to us in our relationship. We talked more about the possibilities, and fantasies. Could this go any further? She would at least like to see if we could spend time together as friends. Maybe it could build from there. But, would a single guy even go for that, and not think it odd, and could he feel comfortable with that situation?

Leila asked me to stand up so she could re-enact the hug. Her lips on my neck - even for a second - were incredibly arousing. Unlike Nick, I grabbed her ass through the yoga pants, and pressed by hardening cock into her. "Let's go to bed", I said.

What followed was some of the most passionate lovemaking we have had in a while. Would Nick remain just a catalyst for our fantasies?

We wonder if any other couples have experienced a similar situation, and been able to elevate a connection from business acquaintance to something more intimate.This is a case where I think many men, not familiar with the mutual consent of a Hot Wife relationship, are more accustomed to thoughts of an affair. We know he is too principled for that, and it's not what we would do in any case.

We also don't want to risk offending him, or making him feel uncomfortable with us, or think less of Leila. We imagine that just coming out to him would be too shocking.

We both like Nick, which makes him an ideal candidate for an MFM. If that can't happen, we definitely want to keep a friendly relationship. On a professional level, we anticipate doing more business with him too.

We'd love to hear from other couples that have experienced such a situation. What did you do, and how did it turn out?  Use the contact form in the upper right-hand corner of our blog to email us, join us on Kasidie, or message us on Twitter at 2HotLovers.

Intro to HotWife Play, and being Sexually Social.

It's been a while, actually 6 months since our last post, but yes.. we're still here! That 6 months happens to coincide with Mr2Hot taking a new job, which has just about wiped out his blog time. Good to be back, if only briefly. 

It was a Saturday night very much like the one I wrote about last year, in "Hot Wives, MFM, and the uninitiated Single Male". That was a night where we had a very sexy encounter with a single male at a bar, not a swinger event, but one that was nevertheless exciting and full of possibilities.

This time I came away with different thoughts. I found myself - for just a moment -  having feelings that took me back to the topic I wrote about in "Jealousy and Arousal, two sides of the same coin"?  While that was happening, I thought to myself... "why did I just have a twinge of jealousy and insecurity"? I am experienced in such scenarios by now, so that shouldn't happen! But, it made me think that there's a lesson and a learning opportunity here. For couples interested in exploring the lifestyle in any way, whether it's soft-swap, full-swap, MFM... or HotWife.


We have met a lot of "newbies", both in person and on sites such as Kasidie. Heck, we look at our own explorations as a never ending process. We are still newbies to many things too. Everyone is a newbie to something. I think it is true for most couples starting their own sexual explorations, that jealousy is the biggest obstacle to overcome.

I deliberately use the word exploration, because that is what I think this should be all about, above and beyond whether you become a "swinger" or not. Yes, some people dive right into full-swap, but that is just not us. I think that couples who are just considering opening up their sex lives, in any way beyond "vanilla", often have the impression that is what the lifestyle is all about.  Most swinger clubs will say they have a no pressure environment, but the first time can still produce a lot of anxiety for newbies.

The theme in the Kasidie online community is about being "sexually social". I love that! No pressure. You can experience being sexually social in whatever way you want. However you feel comfortable, it is very liberating.

So.. back to that Saturday night a few weeks ago.

As you can see from the picture, Leila was looking very hot in the low-cut blue top that I picked out for her. We have had a few opportunities to enjoy swinger clubs and such in the last 6 months, but as I said at the top.. our life has been busier than ever lately. So, we decided to stay close to home that weekend, and check out a local bar that we had been hearing good things about. It had been a saloon-style bar for years, but they recently made it into more of a nightclub environment. Sounds like fun!

It was great fun as the club filled up later into the evening. Leila and I enjoyed the music and the vibe, the people watching, and she had fun flirting with the bartenders. I love when she gets that gleam in here eye, and she had it for both of the lucky studs on the other side of the bar. I am fortunate to have a very extroverted, as well as incredibly alluring Hot Wife. She will initiate contact with men! If they only knew!

As in the uninitiated single male story, in these non-lifestyle scenarios, most men who my sexy wife approaches, especially seeing that she is with me, are kind of dumbfounded about how to react. That's understandable. Nevertheless, I could see that everyone we interacted with that night was enjoying the encounter. Leila just loves to meet new people.

After a while, we had small groups of guys (mostly) around us, just having drinks together and looking for single women to meet.  Leila chatted with a few, and even offered them a bowl of chips from the bar where we sat. Awesome ice breaker! She knows how to make friends quickly.

That was about it for the few hours we were there, until Leila said to me - "I want to go talk to that guy at the other end of the bar. Is that OK?" Apparently there was a guy who had been standing closer to us earlier in the evening, undoubtedly too shy to approach, and she found him to be attractive. Her request excited me. It was getting late, but I very much want her to feel free to express her desires. Of course I said yes!

It was a bit of a new experience though. We generally don't separate when we play, though this was a vanilla bar and we had no expectations of anything but a flirtatious conversation. She had never asked me something like that, even though she has had plenty of encounters when I was not present. (See Prelude to a HotWife Date, for example). It felt different when I was actually there.

I was looking forward to seeing what she could get going. At least I knew it got her juices flowing!  It would be hot to watch her from a safe distance.

My brief twinge of jealousy and insecurity came when I looked down the bar, and she wasn't there. I recalled the guy she was going to chat with, from her description, but I didn't see either of them at the bar. I was fine with her going to chat with a guy, but was concerned that I didn't know where she was. I "knew" she wouldn't go off somewhere with a stranger.

It took a few minutes of scanning the dance floor and bar, but a few minutes later I saw them standing in a less crowded spot near the restrooms. We gave each other our secret signal (not going to tell you what that is), and I enjoyed seeing him respond to her standing close as they talked. I could see her press her breast into his arm, just as she had with me earlier. God that turns me on! I also loved seeing her big smile light up the room!

After a while, as they were still engrossed in conversation, I needed to go to the men's room. Leila didn't even see me as I passed her. It was hot surreptitiously grabbing her ass as I passed on my way out. She told me later she didn't know it was me.

They talked for maybe fifteen  to twenty minutes.. then Leila came back across the dance floor. In a nutshell.. they had a nice chat.. and she answered one of his questions honestly, telling him she was there with her husband.  She gave him an open invitation when she said "you should be out on the dance floor", but he didn't pick up on it.

My takeaway from our very vanilla story is this. If you are the male half of a couple who are considering exploring a more sexually social lifestyle, the scenario I described is a great way to check your jealousy meter as a starting point. Your wife may not be as forward as Leila, but you can go out to a bar together with your sexy wife, then step back and giver her some space.

• Are you comfortable with other guys approaching her? With her enjoying the encounters?  
• This could be a good test for your wife as well, to see if she is comfortable engaging with other men, even in a vanilla setting. It could have been a long time since she was "single" and free to flirt with other men.

Of course, the roles could be reversed as well.  I have to say that on that night, even from a vanilla setting, I was ready to ravage Leila as soon as we got in the door of our house!

Being sexually social is such fun!!!

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Jake's story

In "Stimulate her mind... and the rest will follow.", we shared the story of Jake, a SM that we met online who exemplifies so many of the right ways to engage with a HotWife4MFM that I may have overdone it with the links to tips in previous posts. After we posted that story, Jake asked if we might be interested in posting his point of view on our meeting, connecting, and that very hot, orgasmic night of a MFM threesome some via chat and phone sex. 

I thought that was a great idea! We might even want to start up a stories from SM page here.

So... here is Jake's Story.

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Business trips can either be jam packed, or intensely boring. This one started out slow, and as I settled into my hotel room, I decided to peruse the web a bit to see if there were any interesting people to connect with in town. There I found a particularly interesting Craigslist posting that referenced the HotWife4MFM blog.

After a few minutes on the blog, I was immediately intrigued. I sent off a quick prayer of an e-mail and was pleasantly surprised when I received a response (Craigslist is SO flaky). The response was pretty vanilla, but they mentioned their membership on Kasidie, so I decided to quick jump over there and spruce up my long-dormant profile on that site. The Swing LifeStyle (SLS) site tends to be far more popular in my neck of the woods, but this was a fantastic reminder to keep as many doors open as you can.

I was so thrilled when that first message led to a much longer conversation. It became abundantly clear to me that I was dealing with a loving husband who wanted nothing more for his wife than her total comfort and indulgence - exactly what I want to provide. I was ecstatic when they trusted me with their contact information and the conversation continued.

After getting introduced to Mike online the second day of my trip, my final night in town was a bit of a blur of client entertainment and typical travel BS. Luckily, my 6AM flight the following morning gave me an excuse to turn in early. Of course, I was mostly looking forward to getting back to the privacy of my room to keep the conversation going with this fantastic couple.

Since he and I were immediately hitting it off, I was dying to understand if she and I would share the connection necessary to really explore further.

By about the 3rd IM with Leila, I was confident that this was going to be something extraordinary. I've always believed that if you can get a woman to laugh, you can also get other "pleasurable responses" from her, and we were both giggling in no time. She immediately put out that incredibly sexy aura of someone who knows she's very attractive, but isn't stuck up about it. She had that quiet confidence of knowing that her husband will always love her. She clearly knew that men wanted her, but she wasn't a bitch about it, she embraced it. 

It was intoxicating!

After a few laughs and a little getting to know one another through online chat, I could notice her responses getting a bit more erratic, so I finally asked the question if she was aroused. I guessed we had worked our way at least to a "tingle," so when she admitted to "throbbing," I was immediately aroused. From there, things got even hotter the second we got on the phone.

I was greeted with her very bubbly, yet seductive voice, and the first bit of information she volunteered was that she was naked on the bed face-down, and her loving husband was stroking and pleasuring her. From there, the evening turned in to a speakerphone blur of discussing fantasies and her panting and moaning her way through several very intense and beautiful orgasms.

Here's where the story takes a little break. Since they mentioned they were nearby, and I had this lovely room to share, I described a very hot fantasy, and offered them the opportunity to come by and indulge in it. Of course, I understood that it was a crazy request, but hey, sometimes you've got to take a shot.

The reality of the evening was such that busy work schedules, and the fun the two of them were having at home, meant my request to meet was unrealistic. We engaged in more hot talk, and I lost track of the number of times she climaxed. Eventually, I decided it was OK for me to "let loose" and let her hear just how hot she made me that wonderful evening.

Of course, I can't help but let my mind wander a bit to what could have happened if things played out a bit differently, and my new friends decided to indulge my request.

In my mind's eye, I looked around my nice, comfortable room and could see an incredibly sensual and decadent scene playing out. I could almost hear the giggles outside as they knock at my door and feel the firm handshake with him followed by the quick hug from her as we work our way into the room. 

My mind was swirling of images of him sitting at the desk as she and I sat at the edge of the bed - getting to know one another. I could feel him squirm with that intoxicating mix of indulgent feelings, as she and I began to allow our hands to wander and our lips came together for the first time.

Every picture of Leila in their Kasidie profile showed a radiant smile and her phenomenal lips - the anticipation of that first kiss is amazing, and I could practically see the room exploding with lust and passion as we first indulged one another.

As the exploring and connection became even more intense, I can see her turning to him with a huge smile that is both an expression of lust and appreciation for how incredible she feels. With a slight, confident nod of her head, she directs him over to the other bed so he can get a better look. She stands between us, facing me with her back to him and drops her simple dress to the floor to expose herself completely to us both.

He can see the spark of pure lust in my eyes as I take in his wife's perfect form. I can see myself standing to meet her as she begins to disrobe me before she sinks to the floor. She looks back at him one more time before licking her lips and dropping my boxers to the floor.

The look in her eyes when she finally surveys just how aroused she has me sends me over the top. Her expert lips and lustful eyes have me in a trance of pleasure. Of course, seeing his wife in this lusty, sexual, powerful position has him aroused as well, and he's quickly stripping down without removing his eyes from the situation.

From there, the evening is a blur of her going back and forth between the two beds, taking and indulging in whatever with whoever her desire dictates. The whirlwind of sexual indulgence isn't like playing out a script or set of moves, but more a flow and series of moments that flash through my head like a "greatest hits" reel.

That night wasn't meant to be, but here's to hoping that it was simply laying the groundwork for greater times to come...

Stimulate her mind... and the rest will follow.

Shortly after our last blog post, we received an email from a reader on Kasidie, a gentleman who we did not know before. He is from the East coast, but said that he had enjoyed our blog and was visiting our part of the world in Silicon Valley on business, and would love to learn more about us. We are usually reluctant to engage with out-of-town SMs, because such visits are not conducive to establishing a connection. If you read "How to be a SM FWB", you know that is important to us. Also, traveling SMs often expect to make their time "worthwhile", which is contrary to our our Tip #2 - "Any woman worth having is worth waiting for". Whenever we meet people it is with no expectations, and short visits from out-of-towners can create unwanted pressure. Another reason for our reluctance is - and let's be honest - there are a lot of married men just looking to play around while they are on the road. We aren't interested in helping men cheat on their wives.

However, in his email "Jake" communicated exceptionally well regarding his views on the role of the SM in HotWife MFM play. We appeared to be very much in alignment, and he made it clear that he believed in what we said in our very first post here, "It's not about you".  He also said that he had prior MFM experiences, which could be interesting to learn more about.

Nevertheless, my expectations were not high when I wrote a short reply to Jake, thanking him for his email, asking him to share his thoughts on our blog, and to say more about his experiences. It turned out that I was much too cynical this time. Jake took the time to write a very articulate and thoughtful response to my questions, in which he showed that he read our blog attentively, and he shared with us how it resonated with him.

Guys... there is just no substitute for intelligence, but even if you don't think that you write well, at least take the time to spell check and give some thought to what you are trying to communicate. Quality shows.

Jake also clearly understood that "The fastest way to connect with a HotWife is to make a connection with her husband". I can't overemphasize the importance of that. In his prior MFM relationship, he said that he would sometimes just hang out and have a beer with the husband.  He shared our belief in the importance of chemistry, and how erotic it can be to build up sexual tension over time.  Above all of that, these comments really stood out from Jake's email:

I loved being part of bringing the two of them together. While I only played with her, the effect it had on him and on THEM was so hot for me.

I think that may be the first time we have seen a SM express that. Such great respect for the husband-HotWife relationship, along with the ability to enjoy both vicarious and in-person experiences, says a lot.  Of course he also mentioned how attractive Leila's pictures are, but that was just one aspect of the attraction for him. I couldn't help but respond, and continue to explore the possible connection the three of us could develop.

After exchanging a few emails, Jake and I chatted live via Yahoo Messenger. He was hoping that we could join him or a drink, but it was an exceptionally busy work week for Leila. Also, she preferred to get to know him a little better first, via the safe confines of online chat. Later that evening, they also connected on Yahoo, and immediately struck up an easy conversation. When Leila finds a man to be interesting and attractive, she loves to find out more about them. She and Jake were getting better acquainted, while he deftly turned on the charm. Leila was being seduced... and she loved it!

Leila: I would like to chat with you a bit, to get to know more about you
Jake: I'm looking at that pic of you, with that huge sexy smile
Jake: Has me sooooo curious
Jake: And intrigued.
Leila: about...?
Jake: Intrigued about you. How you move.
Jake: The sparkle of your eyes
Jake: The body language between you and Mike
Leila: interesting - no one has quite put it that way before
Jake: When a sensual woman is truly comfortable and loved, she moves in this confident and graceful way
Jake: That is such a turn on
Leila: <smile>

Even though he was chatting just with Leila, Jake wisely kept me part of their conversation  They spoke of New Connection Energy, and the conversation heated up rapidly.

Leila: we'd love to have a drink with you sometime
Jake: Sounds delightful
Jake: A little flirting and laughing
Jake: The idea of making that connection while Mike supports and encourages you is such a rush
Leila: it is...it's something we discovered
Leila: and enjoy
Jake: I can almost picture you both in my room right now. Mike looking on as I sit close and we explore our first kiss.
Jake: You can almost FEEL his pulse quicken as our hands begin to explore one another
Leila: he just came over and gave me a kiss
Jake: Mmm... I like how supportive he is of you exploring your sensual power
Leila: yes, he loves it
Leila: I’m quite...um
Leila: naughty
Leila: sensual
Leila: sexual
Jake: He can tell you're getting aroused, can't he?
Leila: oh yeah

Confidence is Tip #8 on our list of tips for SMs, and Jake clearly conveyed that in his chat with Leila. Hopefully, all of you SM readers will take these tips to heart. They really work!

Jake also showed that he embraced our Tip #10 as well: Understand what it means to enjoy HotWives at all of the levels that the "lifestyle" can offer. If we couldn't meet in person that evening, we could do other things that are also very arousing, and known to lead to very intense orgasms.

Jake: Imagining how my hands might feel, how I kiss?
Jake: How I'd look into those naughty, sensual, and sexual eyes?
Leila: tease....
Jake: I don't tease Leila
Jake: I deliver
Leila: you're quite
Leila: ...charming
Leila: and... you are quite adept at seduction
Jake: Mmmm... Touching yourself yet Leila? Or just squirming in the chair?
Leila: do you like talking on the phone?
Jake: I do
Jake: You didn't answer my question
Leila: I’m squirming
Jake: Is that gorgeous body of yours starting to feel the tingle Leila?
Leila: I’m well past tingle... to throbbing
Leila: pleasantly throbbing
Jake: mmm... I can tell that throbbing is building
Leila: and tell me what is going on for you right now....
Jake: I've got that sparkle in my eyes that comes from knowing I'm turning you on
Jake: I want to see you gaze at Mike with that look that tells him how much you're going to enjoy sucking and fucking me
Leila: licking my lips thinking about that
Leila: siiigh
Jake: difficult to type?
Leila: yeah
Leila: but in a good way
Jake: I like it
Jake: would you prefer to talk, Leila?
Leila: I would enjoy talking on the phone
Jake: if Mike is ok with it, of course
Leila: I need to wrap up a couple things
Leila: then I can talk ok?

The virtual encounter had Leila very aroused, as was I by watching and listening to her. She has a very sexy giggle, and a sparkle in her eyes that comes out whenever she is getting turned on flirting... or playing. Leila looked incredibly beautiful lying in bed naked, as I got my phone ready to dial up Jake. She wanted to have a little one-on-one time with him before sharing the conversation on speaker phone, so I got out some toys to get ready for what I anticipated was to come.

There was laughter, more giggles, and a lot of aroused "Mmmmms" as Jake and I worked in concert.. he aurally... and me.. orally, and with my probing fingers. With Jake now on speaker, I could tell that we were all getting very close to orgasms. My HotWife is very multi-orgasmic, and we lost count of how many times she came, before stopping to catch her breath. She wanted to hear Jake cum... and her moaning and purring had him very close. It didn't take long before he was grunting out his release in his hotel room, while Leila continued from my fucking her by rhythmically plunging a thick dildo into her wetness. Her squirting was leaving a puddle on the bed, but that just turned us on even more.

Jake had an early flight in the morning, and it was getting late, so after about 45 minutes of orgasms we said our good byes... and then went back to making love again... just the two of us. Leila and I were so turned on that I came a second time, while she was left spent and panting from wave after wave of orgasms.

Tip #11: Stimulate her mind... and the rest will follow.

For a first encounter, this was extraordinary. And, it all started with written communication. With words you can open the mind to stimulation of all kinds. You don't need to be a Pulitzer prize winner, but we can all learn to express ourselves honestly, with respect as well as admiration. Give it effort and thought, don't just whip off an email with something like "you're hot"! Always spell check!

To be blunt, we all know that SMs are looking for hot women to have sex with. That is what I would call the least common denominator. Since we all know that, you prove nothing by showing that is all that is on your mind in your initial contact, either directly (as some still do) or implicitly.  You need to rise above it, to show that you are sincerely interested in a woman.

As this experience with Jake showed, phone sex and sex chat can be extremely hot! It is fundamentally safe sex, and it lets a woman open herself up more than she might in a first in-person encounter. This goes both ways, for the SM as well as the HotWife. And as we showed in "How to be a SM FWB", virtual meetings can be great preludes to meeting for real.

Nevertheless, it is important to keep in mind that the first face-to-face meeting is still just that, a first meeting, and not to assume that everything a HotWife may have fantasized will immediately be re-enacted in person. Trust and boundaries still need to be established, and respected.

But what a great way to get her warmed up!

Here is a little audio clip of the "after-party". We've been thinking about adding media to our blog for a while, and are very interested to get your response.

How to be a SM FWB

SM FWB = a Single-Male Friend With Benefits

The truth is, I really don't care very much for the "friend with benefits" designation. It seems to contradict what draws us to explore the "lifestyle" in the first place, which is to be able to express our sexual identities more freely as an integrated part of the whole persons we are.. not something separate. It is that treatment of sexuality as something forbidden, that must be kept in private, that you don't share or talk about even with your friends, that strikes me as so repressive and hypocritical.

To be sure, we are not so liberated that we open up our sexuality to just anybody. We do live in the real world after all, and our culture just doesn't support that notion. So, the ideal will remain just that, perhaps an unachievable one. Nevertheless, we are drawn more to make friends with people who are sex-positive and comfortable in expressing their sexuality however they choose, even if they are more or less adventurous than us.

Though initial attraction can happen very quickly, we are most attracted to the potential of a stronger connection, a friendship with like-minded people. Attraction is never purely physical, and the sexual component is always just one part of that connection.

• Tip #7: Sexual attraction starts with chemistry, not physics.

So it is for single males in a HotWife MFM situation as well, at least for us. From our experiences,  many SMs apparently don't get that, and they just look at a HotWife as an easy opportunity for sex without the work that goes into having a relationship. I wish I had a dollar for every email that we have received that just says something like, "She's Hot! Want to meet up sometime"?  Nothing about the person, no effort to show us who they are, or that they care who we are.  I've written about this before. Would you approach a single female that way?

The title of this post - "How to be a SM FWB" - embodies a very important tip for SMs. You will be much more likely to have opportunities to enjoy a HotWife, if you behave as the kind of guy that she AND her husband would want as a friend. We know that you would like to have sex with her. Duh! Believe me, there is no shortage of cocks that want my HotWife. Now if you take the extra time to show us that there is an intelligent person attached to yours, you have a much better chance of standing out from the crowd.

We have a great example of how this works to share with you, of a SM we'll call Jack, who exhibited many of the behaviors we have described in our list of tips here. Click on any of the red tips to read the background stories that we published previously:

• Tip #1: It's not about you!
• Tip #2: Any woman worth having is worth waiting for.
• Tip #9: Always focus on the couple and include both in the conversations.

 .. and ..

• Tip #10: Understand what it means to enjoy HotWives at all of the levels that the "lifestyle" can offer.

We 1st "met" Jack on a lifestyle site one night, when Leila was feeling particularly frisky and decided to chat over webcam... while wearing my favorite sheer black top. (Hint: Our Kasidie friends can enjoy pictures of her from that night in our profile albums). Jack was very appreciative of the hot show she put on, and definitely made the right impression when he wrote to thank us the next day.  There were other guys who enjoyed the show too, but none of them showed the class and intelligence to express their gratitude in such a complimentary fashion.

... the webcam show was steamy, sensual, and oh so naughty indeed.That sheer blouse was such a turn-on, not to mention Leila's luscious lips and radiant smile, everything was so delicious!

After you two left, I had to take matters into my own hand with the thought of touching her through the sheer blouse. Leila, I imagined you reaching out and stroking my hard cock while I tasted your scrumptious firm breasts and you could feel my pre-cum just oozing for attention. I felt your soft yet firm hand on my cock, stroking me with eagerness and anticipation of what's to cum. It wasn't long before I couldn't hold myself back any longer and let go of my lust and cum all over your hand.

From that first online meeting, it would be about 6 weeks before we would meet Jack in person... before he got to experience his fantasy in person. Worth waiting for? I would say so!

In the meantime, Jack and Leila had some very hot fun with sexy chats in Yahoo Messenger.

Jack: so if I may ask, what would your fantasy be when we get together
Leila: so...
Leila: i get really turned on
Leila: turning men on
Leila: just touching them
Jack: OMG, you are a perfect woman
Leila: with my touch, tongue, other parts ;)
Leila: so seeing a man aroused is ..well gets me going
Jack: oooooooh
Jack: that's very sexy
Jack: I would very much like to feel your touch
Leila: so having Mike be inside of me and if I get to touch you - taste you
Leila: YUM
Jack: that's so yummy indeed
Jack: ok I'm hard again :P
Leila: i'm wet -
Jack:  do you mind if I tell you what I'm doing?
Leila:  ohhh please
Jack mmm my cock is out and hard now
Leila:  i like that
Jack:  you have that effect on me :P
Leila:  > :)
Jack: " ""horny"" devil, I like it"
Leila:  ok that is an eviiiil deviiiil
Jack:  me likey
Leila:  lol good
Jack:  I'm stroking slowly as we chat
Leila:  I like that too
Leila:  I want to do that to you

The teasing and online flirting continued, and about a month later we met Jack for drinks at one of our favorite bars... one that had a large parking garage nearby. We all had a great time, and got along very well. After weeks of exquisite yet tortuous foreplay, the buildup of sexual tension demanded a release. So, after enjoying our first meeting in person, the three of us walked back to Jack's car from the bar and Leila got in next to him.

I sat in the back seat as Leila continued her teasing of Jack,  stroking his bulging cock through his pants before sliding down the zipper and taking it in her hand. I watched as she leaned over to take his raging hardon deep into her mouth... giving him the best blow job he ever had (at least until the next time.. <wink>).  Aftwerward, leaving Jack in a daze, Leila and I went home and fucked like animals.  We got Jack on the phone to listen in to the raging passion that Leila would unleash, fantasizing about both him & I fucking her.

Saying last night was memorable is an understatement, I went to bed with a hardon and woke up with a hardon which I had to promptly handle thinking about Leila in my car last night stroking, sucking me.

Then hearing you two going at it on the phone? Leila made me cum 3 times in less than 24 hours! I'm getting another hardon just writing this email!

You two are an amazing and wild couple and you have made one of my long-time fantasies cum true and for that, I say thank you :)

That's class, from a guy who gets that just showing lust is not enough. You need to stand out. You need to be someone we would enjoy spending time with, that we both can trust, as well as someone my HotWife would enjoy teasing, flirting with.. seducing.

To paraphrase an old Seinfeld episode.. you need to be friend-worthy! Otherwise, why would we spend time with you?

Sexy webcam shows, sexting IMs.. touching and teasing in a bar.. a blow job in a public place.. phone sex..

Get it? Want it? That's what can happen when you have more to say than...

"You're hot. Want to get together sometime"?

Our exploration and relationship with Jack has continued, sometimes with months at a time before chatting or getting together.  More stories of that to follow...

An erotic virtual threesome

Leila had been working a lot of long hours for months, so a trip to Hawaii for some well-deserved R&R would be just the thing for her. Unfortunately, I couldn't go with her this time, since I was too tied up with work myself to get away. Leila recruited a girlfriend to join her, but she could only make it for the latter half of the trip. For the first five days, Leila would be a HotWife in Hawaii... all by herself.

This meant, of course, that I had to pick out some of my favorite sexy and revealing outfits for Leila to wear while she was on her Hawaiian vacation. If I couldn't go with her, I wanted to at least get reports of how she drove all the island boys crazy, and see what opportunities for flirtatious HotWife play might arise.  I also knew that the relaxation effect of being away from the pressures of work, on a beautiful tropical island, would result in Leila's erotic sensuality being even more radiant than usual. Our vacation sex is always extra hot!

I updated our location to Hawaii in our online profile, before she left, so that Single Males (SMs) could text or email  us to express their interest in meeting Leila. There was no shortage of responses. I had some online conversations with a few of the guys, those who looked like they could be respectful gentleman, and continued to screen them while Leila packed, and later while she was en route. After her first day dedicated to recovery from travel and jet lag, Leila and I went over the log of messages that had come in from SMs. She commented on who she liked, or didn't like, but nothing was planned for a meetup just yet.

On her first night out, Leila chose a new, lightweight, dark blue Tommy Bahamas blouse and white pants, and sent me a picture of herself from dinner. When she tried on that top at the store, with its soft, light material hugging her plump, braless breasts... I instantly got a hardon just looking at her. The shape of her erect nipples were clearly visible poking through the thin cloth, almost as if it was indigo paint. It was a good thing there weren't many people in the store!

After dinner, Leila called me, to get my suggestions on a bar she could go to for a few drinks. She was ready to make the scene, and show off her sexy outfit to any cute guys that might happen to be around. "Maybe I'll go to that hotel bar, and check out the bartender who wrote to us," she said. I told her that was an excellent idea. Nick and I had been texting for a couple days, and it was apparent that he was, in his words, "a very nice respectful man". He also had some very hot pictures of himself having sex with another man's wife, which were taken by the husband while he watched. That was also a good sign, that other couples had trusted him. When I told Nick that  Leila would be out that evening, he invited her to come by the bar where he worked, for a cocktail on him. This was perfect, because Leila would be in a nice environment where she and Nick could meet and flirt, safe in the knowledge that he was in his workplace, where he was unlikely to get out of line.

This set off what turned out to be a very unique and stimulating triangle!  I was talking with Leila as she drove to the hotel, at the same time as I was texting with Nick, who anxiously looked forward to her arrival. It was a virtual three-way encounter! Leila had trouble finding a parking spot, and then she went to a different bar, which was downstairs from Nick's. He had said it was a slow night, which would give him plenty of one-on-one time with Leila.

Me: she called me from parking lot.. said it was pretty crowded

Nick: Tell her up stairs! Above the pool

Me: Hope she found a spot, told her you are above the pool.

Nick: Thank you! I dont want to miss her.

Me: Leila says she is at bar.. with Randy?

Nick: Wrong bar! Come upstairs! Quick!

Nick: She is Gorgeous!

Leila and I talked over the phone when she arrived, but at Randy's bar. She said that Randy tried to be a real pickup artist, but she was turned off by his mustache, and his inauthentic approach. Nick could look down and see Leila, before she had the opportunity to meet him, and it was very exciting for me to share that moment of another man laying eyes on her for the first time. He was struck by her beauty, and noted a resemblance to Sofia Vergara that she denies, but I can see it and have told her so as well! It was was stimulating to me to share in the New Connection Energy.

Nick: Went down!

Me: just heard from Leila..

Nick: May I kiss her!?

Me: tried to call you .. you must have been downstairs

Me: so cool. She said Nick came down.. and said "Hi I'm Nick.. are you Leila?"

Nick: I'm dying! She's not coming!!

Nick, like every man, was immediately drawn to Leila's luscious, full red lips. Angelina Jolie would even be jealous! It was exquisite torture for him to see her, and going downstairs he even got to gently touch her back, but he had to return to his bar while she stayed downstairs finishing her drink. Leila told me that Nick was charming, and even though she wasn't attracted to Randy, she was enjoying the effect she was having.

That was all I heard for about a half hour. There is a three hour time difference to Hawaii, and I needed to get to bed. When my phone rang, it was Leila calling to tell me she didn't want to leave without going up to see Nick.  I thought she had not had time to look at his erotic profile pictures, but she said she had. She liked what she saw, and in person, she found him to be a complete gentleman. Her cell phone battery was dying, so we didn't get to talk for long. I went back to trying to text Nick, but he was.. umm.. pre-occupied. I went to sleep, and could only imagine the sexually charged energy that must have been flowing across that bar.

After dozing off for another half hour or so, I was awakened by the buzz of a text message on my phone. It was now about 2 AM my time, 11 PM in Hawaii. Nick told me his bar closed at 10 PM, so I immediately wondered if he and Leila had spent some time together after closing. Before I could read his message, Leila called to say she was on her way back to the hotel, and just briefly, that she would have loved to play more... if I was there! That was worth waking up for!

Nick: She is Beautiful Mike! It was nice to meet her! You deserve her. She Loves you!

Me: She still there?

Nick: She is driving back to her place.

Nick: She was fine when she left.

Me: Sounds like you got to chat

Nick: We did which was nice. I still wanted to take all her clothes off though! Be fun with you there!

Me: You said bar closed at 10. I was wondering, now that it's after...

Nick: Cleanup! Damn the clean up! Lol

Nick: I would LOVE to eat her pussy Mike!

Nick: We just talked. Wish you were here!

Nick and I decided to continue our chat over the phone, while Leila made the 30 minute drive back to her hotel. He told me they had talked about how we enjoy MFM and Leila being a HotWife, as well as our play with couples. But, especially since she was just meeting him for the first time, Leila made it clear she would only play if I was there.  Nick couldn't have been a more perfect SM for MFM, and his comments to me about how Leila loved me showed that he was really aware of the importance of respecting our relationship. Nick is a great example of a guy who gets what an MFM situation is all about.

He demonstrated several of our tips:
 #2 Any woman worth having is worth waiting for
 #7 Sexual attraction starts with chemistry, not physics
 #9 Always focus on the couple and include both in the conversations
#10 Understand what it means to enjoy HotWives at all of the levels that the "lifestyle" can offer

When Leila returned to her hotel, we had a very hot phone sex session, with her fantasizing what it would be like to have sex with Nick and me. Nick even called me the next day to chat some more, and check on Leila. I think he is a model for other SMs to follow.