Monday, March 18, 2013

Stimulate her mind... and the rest will follow.

Shortly after our last blog post, we received an email from a reader on Kasidie, a gentleman who we did not know before. He is from the East coast, but said that he had enjoyed our blog and was visiting our part of the world in Silicon Valley on business, and would love to learn more about us. We are usually reluctant to engage with out-of-town SMs, because such visits are not conducive to establishing a connection. If you read "How to be a SM FWB", you know that is important to us. Also, traveling SMs often expect to make their time "worthwhile", which is contrary to our our Tip #2 - "Any woman worth having is worth waiting for". Whenever we meet people it is with no expectations, and short visits from out-of-towners can create unwanted pressure. Another reason for our reluctance is - and let's be honest - there are a lot of married men just looking to play around while they are on the road. We aren't interested in helping men cheat on their wives.

However, in his email "Jake" communicated exceptionally well regarding his views on the role of the SM in HotWife MFM play. We appeared to be very much in alignment, and he made it clear that he believed in what we said in our very first post here, "It's not about you".  He also said that he had prior MFM experiences, which could be interesting to learn more about.

Nevertheless, my expectations were not high when I wrote a short reply to Jake, thanking him for his email, asking him to share his thoughts on our blog, and to say more about his experiences. It turned out that I was much too cynical this time. Jake took the time to write a very articulate and thoughtful response to my questions, in which he showed that he read our blog attentively, and he shared with us how it resonated with him.

Guys... there is just no substitute for intelligence, but even if you don't think that you write well, at least take the time to spell check and give some thought to what you are trying to communicate. Quality shows.

Jake also clearly understood that "The fastest way to connect with a HotWife is to make a connection with her husband". I can't overemphasize the importance of that. In his prior MFM relationship, he said that he would sometimes just hang out and have a beer with the husband.  He shared our belief in the importance of chemistry, and how erotic it can be to build up sexual tension over time.  Above all of that, these comments really stood out from Jake's email:
I loved being part of bringing the two of them together. While I only played with her, the effect it had on him and on THEM was so hot for me.
I think that may be the first time we have seen a SM express that. Such great respect for the husband-HotWife relationship, along with the ability to enjoy both vicarious and in-person experiences, says a lot.  Of course he also mentioned how attractive Leila's pictures are, but that was just one aspect of the attraction for him. I couldn't help but respond, and continue to explore the possible connection the three of us could develop.

After exchanging a few emails, Jake and I chatted live via Yahoo Messenger. He was hoping that we could join him or a drink, but it was an exceptionally busy work week for Leila. Also, she preferred to get to know him a little better first, via the safe confines of online chat. Later that evening, they also connected on Yahoo, and immediately struck up an easy conversation. When Leila finds a man to be interesting and attractive, she loves to find out more about them. She and Jake were getting better acquainted, while he deftly turned on the charm. Leila was being seduced... and she loved it!
Leila: I would like to chat with you a bit, to get to know more about you
Jake: I'm looking at that pic of you, with that huge sexy smile
Jake: Has me sooooo curious
Jake: And intrigued.
Leila: about...?
Jake: Intrigued about you. How you move.
Jake: The sparkle of your eyes
Jake: The body language between you and Mike
Leila: interesting - no one has quite put it that way before
Jake: When a sensual woman is truly comfortable and loved, she moves in this confident and graceful way
Jake: That is such a turn on
Leila: <smile>
Even though he was chatting just with Leila, Jake wisely kept me part of their conversation  They spoke of New Connection Energy, and the conversation heated up rapidly.
Leila: we'd love to have a drink with you sometime
Jake: Sounds delightful
Jake: A little flirting and laughing
Jake: The idea of making that connection while Mike supports and encourages you is such a rush
Leila: it's something we discovered
Leila: and enjoy
Jake: I can almost picture you both in my room right now. Mike looking on as I sit close and we explore our first kiss.
Jake: You can almost FEEL his pulse quicken as our hands begin to explore one another
Leila: he just came over and gave me a kiss
Jake: Mmm... I like how supportive he is of you exploring your sensual power
Leila: yes, he loves it
Leila: I’m
Leila: naughty
Leila: sensual
Leila: sexual
Jake: He can tell you're getting aroused, can't he?
Leila: oh yeah
Confidence is Tip #8 on our list of tips for SMs, and Jake clearly conveyed that in his chat with Leila. Hopefully, all of you SM readers will take these tips to heart. They really work!

Jake also showed that he embraced our Tip #10 as well: Understand what it means to enjoy HotWives at all of the levels that the "lifestyle" can offerIf we couldn't meet in person that evening, we could do other things that are also very arousing, and known to lead to very intense orgasms.
Jake: Imagining how my hands might feel, how I kiss?
Jake: How I'd look into those naughty, sensual, and sexual eyes?
Leila: tease....
Jake: I don't tease Leila
Jake: I deliver
Leila: you're quite
Leila: ...charming
Leila: and... you are quite adept at seduction
Jake: Mmmm... Touching yourself yet Leila? Or just squirming in the chair?
Leila: do you like talking on the phone?
Jake: I do
Jake: You didn't answer my question
Leila: I’m squirming
Jake: Is that gorgeous body of yours starting to feel the tingle Leila?
Leila: I’m well past tingle... to throbbing
Leila: pleasantly throbbing
Jake: mmm... I can tell that throbbing is building
Leila: and tell me what is going on for you right now....
Jake: I've got that sparkle in my eyes that comes from knowing I'm turning you on
Jake: I want to see you gaze at Mike with that look that tells him how much you're going to enjoy sucking and fucking me
Leila: licking my lips thinking about that
Leila: siiigh
Jake: difficult to type?
Leila: yeah
Leila: but in a good way
Jake: I like it
Jake: would you prefer to talk, Leila?
Leila: I would enjoy talking on the phone
Jake: if Mike is ok with it, of course
Leila: I need to wrap up a couple things
Leila: then I can talk ok?
The virtual encounter had Leila very aroused, as was I by watching and listening to her. She has a very sexy giggle, and a sparkle in her eyes that comes out whenever she is getting turned on flirting... or playing. Leila looked incredibly beautiful lying in bed naked, as I got my phone ready to dial up Jake. She wanted to have a little one-on-one time with him before sharing the conversation on speaker phone, so I got out some toys to get ready for what I anticipated was to come.

There was laughter, more giggles, and a lot of aroused "Mmmmms" as Jake and I worked in concert.. he aurally... and me.. orally, and with my probing fingers. With Jake now on speaker, I could tell that we were all getting very close to orgasms. My HotWife is very multi-orgasmic, and we lost count of how many times she came, before stopping to catch her breath. She wanted to hear Jake cum... and her moaning and purring had him very close. It didn't take long before he was grunting out his release in his hotel room, while Leila continued from my fucking her by rhythmically plunging a thick dildo into her wetness. Her squirting was leaving a puddle on the bed, but that just turned us on even more.

Jake had an early flight in the morning, and it was getting late, so after about 45 minutes of orgasms we said our good byes... and then went back to making love again... just the two of us. Leila and I were so turned on that I came a second time, while she was left spent and panting from wave after wave of orgasms.

Tip #11: Stimulate her mind... and the rest will follow.

For a first encounter, this was extraordinary. And, it all started with written communication. With words you can open the mind to stimulation of all kinds. You don't need to be a Pulitzer prize winner, but we can all learn to express ourselves honestly, with respect as well as admiration. Give it effort and thought, don't just whip off an email with something like "you're hot"! Always spell check!

To be blunt, we all know that SMs are looking for hot women to have sex with. That is what I would call the least common denominator. Since we all know that, you prove nothing by showing that is all that is on your mind in your initial contact, either directly (as some still do) or implicitly.  You need to rise above it, to show that you are sincerely interested in a woman.

As this experience with Jake showed, phone sex and sex chat can be extremely hot! It is fundamentally safe sex, and it lets a woman open herself up more than she might in a first in-person encounter. This goes both ways, for the SM as well as the HotWife. And as we showed in "How to be a SM FWB", virtual meetings can be great preludes to meeting for real.

Nevertheless, it is important to keep in mind that the first face-to-face meeting is still just that, a first meeting, and not to assume that everything a HotWife may have fantasized will immediately be re-enacted in person. Trust and boundaries still need to be established, and respected.

But what a great way to get her warmed up!

Here is a little audio clip of the "after-party". We've been thinking about adding media to our blog for a while, and are very interested to get your response.

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