Monday, July 30, 2012

New blog discovery, and update to HotWife4MFM layout

Just a quickie...

We listed a new blog that we discovered in Our Blog List in the right sidebar, "The Sex Experiment". We haven't read but a few of the posts there, which the author "Mr. X" has also turned into a book, but it looks very hot! We especially enjoyed #23: The Bar Game Experiment, which reminds us of our previous post here - Hot Wives, MFM, and the uninitiated Single Male.

We saw a nice feature on Mr. X's blog, a Table of Contents. That is a great way to get around the difficulty of navigating a blog. I am often going back to get the link for our first post when I introduce someone to our blog, so now I can just give them the link to our T of C. I'm glad we could do this before our list got too long. We will update that with every new post.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Hot Wives, MFM, and the uninitiated Single Male

It was a Saturday night, and Leila and I were sooooo ready to go out and have a sexy good time, after a very stressful week! We didn't have anything in particular planned, but for the possibility of meeting a Single Male who had contacted us online. He happened to live close to one of our favorite bars. We exchanged text messages into the night, but he ended up at a different bar with friends just a block away from each us, and we never did connect.

Such unplanned nights out are pretty common for us, since it seems that we inevitably get caught up in our work week until we can finally come up for air sometime on Saturday.  We are lucky to have two favorite bars nearby, with either a DJ or a live band, where we can go have some fun without much forethought. And, as you know if you have been reading our blog, this is even better when Leila wears one of her sexy, revealing outfits... no matter what the plan!

Leila got the last stool in the middle of the bar, and I stood to her side facing her. I prefer this arrangement, since we can look directly at each other, and physical contact is much easier. The public one-on-one time with the sexy Mrs2Hot was great, and flirting and teasing each other always makes for excellent foreplay!  She wore a black halter top that exposed her sexy back and shoulders, braless of course, with the soft material snugly following her shapely bosom. I let Leila know how she was turning me on, especially when she leaned into me so that her breast pressed enticingly against my arm. That always gets me aroused!

We were enjoying our drinks and listening to the music, as the bar grew more crowded, and doing some people watching... which in this case turned out to be more "man-watching". Leila commented on a few guys that she found to be attractive, who were mostly scanning the dance floor for hot prospects. Then, a good-looking guy came up to the bar to order a drink, standing on Leila's other side.  It was immediately apparent that he had an energy about him that really stood out.  He wasn't one of those guys who just comes up, tries to sneak a look at Leila, or even stares silently and never says anything. Josh was smiling from the moment he came in, but I'm sure that he had no intention of engaging with us as he ordered his drink.

Leila must have felt his energy too, as she turned and smiled, and asked him what he had ordered. The music had gotten very loud at this point, so I couldn't hear much of what they were saying after that. I did see his face light up, as he clearly was thrilled that such a beautiful woman was engaging him in conversation. I enjoyed seeing that effect that Leila always has. Her energy and sex appeal are irresistible. They talked for a few minutes, and Josh and I had only briefly shaken hands when Leila introduced me, but before long he was ordering shots for the 3 of us.

How cool, I thought!  Josh's gesture was right out of our recent post, How do Single Males connect with Hot Wife couples?  It was a very classy move, and I interpreted that it was his way of both complimenting my beautiful lady, and congratulating me on having such a Hot Wife. It was like a virtual high-five, as we clinked our glasses together. Josh was obviously out to have a good time too!

The bartender came up with some concoction that was very tasty, and Leila continued to chat with Josh while the music blared so loudly that I couldn't hear what they were saying, even when she tried to relay parts of the conversation to me. I turned my attention more to checking out the crowd, while occasionally observing that Leila and Josh seemed to be having a great time getting acquainted. I could only pick up that he said he played for one of our local sports teams, and that he was friends with the DJ, while I enjoyed seeing their New Connection Energy (NCE)  build.

Apparently Josh was planning to meet a friend, and when his buddy Daniel found him at the bar chatting with Leila, I swear his eyes got as big as silver dollars! It was like.. "whoah.. dude.. who is this?!"

Josh made the introductions, and now Leila had 3 men surrounding her! I am not sure what was said, but I think that at some point either Josh or Daniel asked if I was Leila's husband. Leila will have to fill us in on the details here. Most guys, I think, are not used to a hot woman that is so forward in showing interest in them, so he wanted to check on what the situation was.  I surmised that Josh was enjoying Leila's flirtation, but he was a gentleman, and did not want to step out of bounds. When she told them that I was totally OK with her engaging with another man, it seemed that Josh was a bit freaked out! He said something about how he wasn't used to this, and appeared to be so unnerved that he and Daniel gradually stepped away, and went out to the dance floor to engage with some Single Females.

Leila and I went back to enjoying ourselves, as other guys came up to the bar and ordered their drinks. It is always interesting to compare how guys behave in this situation. Unfortunately, some are just rude, squeezing in very close and never saying anything. Others linger when they see my Hot Wife, attempting to surreptitiously make physical contact in some ways. Some are nice enough to at least smile in acknowledgment. We had all varieties of behavior going on that night, while we also watched how Josh and Daniel were doing with a group of single women in the crowd.  Josh ordered the same shots for these girls, but the most attractive of them was very stuck up, and she wouldn't even taste it. He would have done better to stay chatting with Leila.  Meanwhile, Leila was enjoying interacting with the bartender, who she also thought was hot. She surprised me by buying a drink for Josh's DJ friend, and delivering it in person! I'm sure that Josh saw that, and I got to enjoy the lustful looks my Hot Wife got from him and all the other guys as she made her way across the packed dance floor.

After a while, I told Leila I was going to the men's room, and she should "have fun" while I was gone. I was hoping that Josh, or one of the other guys she thought was hot, would take the opportunity to come chat with her. No sense in leaving all of that sexual tension hanging. When I came out of the men's room and looked towards the bar, I was not disappointed. There was Josh, standing very close to Leila, smiling and laughing. I could only see her back from where I stood at a distance, and I decided to hang out there for a while to see what developed. I waited maybe 10 minutes, which was obviously longer than a normal bathroom break, but I didn't want Leila to wonder what happened to me. It turned out that I should have waited a bit longer.

I made my way through the crowd, and came up behind Leila, where she was so engaged with Josh that she did not immediately notice me. So, I slid my hand down her jeans to her tiny thong, which was readily accessible as she leaned toward him. I love feeling her ass that way. Mmmm. Leila then turned toward me, and said "Hi honey, how do we spell our email address again?" We changed it not so long ago, and Leila wanted to get it right as she wrote it down for Josh on his bar receipt.

As Leila told me later, she had been trying to assure him that everything was good, that I was totally OK with this. He was obviously torn, irresistibly attracted to Leila's sexual charms and unable to resist at least stroking her arm, but at the same time he was nervous, and totally unfamiliar with the Hot Wife MFM dynamic. He was not so nervous, though, that he wasn't enjoying Leila's voluptuous body pressed up against him.  As I learned afterwards, Leila had already written down our email for him once, before I returned, and Josh pulled up his shirt and asked her to slide the piece of paper into his front pants pocket. I didn't get to see that, but it sounded damn hot! No doubt he wanted Leila to discover how hard he was for her.

He had to be hard! Leila told me that it was so difficult to hear each other, and the bar so crowded (not that she needed an excuse), so she put her arm around his waist to hold him close as they talked. "It felt strange", she later told me, "I never pressed my breasts against another man's arm like that", exactly as she had done to me earlier in the evening! There was a lot of mutual arousal to go around!

 "But he's right behind you!", Josh said as he noticed me there while I was squeezing Leila's soft ass cheek inside of her jeans. "It's OK, it's OK", she said, "it's all good". Josh then took the receipt, and leaned across to shake my hand. I shook his, and tried to indicate with my expression and handshake that this was all good, and he was very welcome. But once again, he made his way back to the dance floor.

It was getting late, but Leila and I hung out at the bar for a while longer, as another guy came up to fill the space that Josh had vacated. This guy stood very close, with his back to the bar, and I would catch him leering at Leila. But, he never had the nerve to say a word.  We decided to leave, but not before Leila would say goodbye to Josh. She returned his favor from earlier in the evening, and bought him a drink, also delivering it to him where he stood next to the DJ stand. Sadly still perplexed, he just said "is your husband still here?"

When Leila returned, I made sure to pull her tight and give her a passionate kiss, right there on the dance floor. It was my way of showing Josh, and all the guys, "Yeah.. this is all good... I love my Hot Wife!"

Unfortunately, it didn't go any further with Josh that night, and I doubt we will ever hear from him at the email address we gave him. Nevertheless, Leila and I were both very horny from the night's activities, and this led to some incredibly hot role-playing sex when we got home. You will have to use your imagination for now, that is a post for another day.

We would like to conclude this post with some questions which Leila and I have been discussing since that Saturday night.
  • Is it wrong for a Hot Wife to flirt with, or maybe even seduce, an uninitiated Single Male? 
I say no, that if he were to have some moral objection to the flirtations of a married woman he can always disengage. We always let a guy know that it's cool with me, to try to avoid any misunderstanding.

Also, our Hot Wife play is a part of how we express ourselves sexually, which I believe is a freedom that everyone should have.  But, and this isn't the 1st time, we clearly caused some confusion in the poor boy. Is that wrong?  
  • Hot Wife couples - do you enjoy such play? I hesitate to use the term, but have you ever initiated a "vanilla" SM this way?
  • SMs - have you been initiated to the Hot Wife lifestyle, or met a Hot Wife couple at a bar or club like this, at a non-lifestyle event? We heard from at least one SM who gets this, being aware of Hot Wife couples in public, in our survey How do Single Males connect with Hot Wife couples? But we would love to hear from an SM that was 1st initiated to Hot Wives and MFM this way.
It would be great if there were lifestyle clubs as convenient as the local bars, which were open to anyone and everyone, where we wouldn't need to think about any of the SMs being totally unfamiliar with Hot Wives and MFM.  Those type of venues are pretty hard to find, even in the San Francisco Bay area. But, one of the reasons is because SMs are not all well-mannered, and there is always a concern for the safety and comfort of the women... and the opposite of the uninitiated.. the overly-aggressive.

That being the case, I hope to continue enjoying hot Saturday nights with my Hot Wife! You never know what will happen, or who you might connect with.

Saturday, July 7, 2012

Hot Wife for MFM: Our Top 10 list of tips (so far).

We've been asked to summarize our tips for single males, and now that we are up to 10, we think it is a great time to review. The last-in first-out blog format is not the easiest to navigate, so links to the article in which each tip appeared are provided in our summary list.

1) Our 1st Tip was: It's Not About You!  In a Shared Wife MFM experience, the Single Male (SM) is a guest participating in making the HotWife the center of two men's attention. The corollary is It's All About Her Sexual Freedom of ExpressionThat doesn't mean that SMs are depersonalized into a "stunt cock" role. But you must understand that the couple you engage with defines what Hot Wife play means for them, not you. Even if they desire a bull-cuckold arrangement, that is still their call, not yours.

2) Any woman worth having is worth waiting for.  Don't expect a HotWife to be any different than a single woman you are attracted to. Some might sleep with you on the 1st date, but probably not most. Keep in mind their are two people who must be comfortable with you, and friends with benefits don't happen until you are friends, not strangers.

3) Follow the woman's signals! If you aren't sure.. ask.  This applies before and during an encounter with every woman, not just HotWives. If you are unsure of her flirtations, or what she likes..ask! 

4) Know Yourself, and Be Honest With Yourself First!  Tip #4 is pretty simple.  A HotWife MFM encounter is no place to act out or escape from your personal problems.

5) Guys, good diet = good tasting cum. This is Leila's tip, so I have to trust her on this one :-) This is obviously not just for MFM situations, but women who enjoy sucking cock won't want to take your cum if you reek of garlic fries! 

6) If you see a woman out with her man, acting like a Hot Wife.. take a chance! Tip #6 goes along with #3. The intent here is to open up the landscape for HotWife encounters. Sure, if you are at a lifestyle event, you at least know that the women there are sexually open in some way. But HotWife couples don't just go out to swinger clubs. If she is putting out HotWife vibes, making obvious eye contact... approach.. both of them! Nothing ventured.. nothing gained.

7) Sexual attraction starts with chemistry, not physics. It's not just about looks, so whatever you do... don't introduce yourself with a cock shot! Personality trumps that any day! Which leads to.. 

8) Tip #8: Confidence is the key to success! So many SMs have missed so many opportunities that were staring them in the face. 

9) Always focus on the couple and include both in the conversations.The fastest way to connect with a HotWife is to make a connection with her husband.

10) Understand what it means to enjoy HotWives at all of the levels that the "lifestyle" can offer.  Every HotWife encounter, even a voyeuristic one, should be viewed as a source of pleasure. For us at least, guys who just want to "do the deed" miss out on a whole world of pleasures along the way. See tips #2 and #7 for related advice. 

Sunday, July 1, 2012

She was a Hot Girlfriend first... in a white spandex T-shirt!

In my earlier post on "HotWife discovery. She was a hot girlfriend first", I wrote of what I think is the #1 motivation for couples to explore HotWife play:  Whatever form your HotWife play may take, it is a great way to keep (or reignite) that sexual energy from the first stages of attraction between a man and a woman.  That energy is often referred to as NRE, or New Relationship Energy.

During some web research for other HotWife MFM sites, I found a great reference on the topic that put it this way:

  • New sex : Sex with a new partner is often very highly charged and perhaps biological in nature. Bringing another man into your relationship can result in a similar level of intensity that you experienced when you first shared one another.
  • Pure lust sex: He wants to see that "desire for a stud" look in her eyes, driven by female hormones and animal instinct.
  • "New sex" pleasures: For men and women, sex with a new partner is in most cases very erotic.
These are just a few samples from the list of motivations which the author of A MFM Guide provides in his take on the subject. I highly recommend his short online guide. We are of a like mind in regards to how there are many ways to enjoy HotWife play, without necessarily reducing it to "I always had a fantasy of seeing another man fuck my wife". The author's suggestion that couples can start HotWife MFM exploration with other activities, such as "Have her dress provocatively, then go to a public place. Watch other men watch her", gets my unequivocal endorsement!

From the time that we first met, Leila would sometimes surprise me by dressing provocatively, driving me wild with lust in the process. That is the energy that I want to continue to enjoy. She was a Hot Girlfriend first! This is why I so enjoy buying her provocative outfits now, and taking her out to show her off.  I remember vividly the first time that Leila dressed provocatively for me. It just about blew my mind, and I am sure the minds of every man who saw her, even more so because it was so unexpected.

It might have been our 3rd or 4th date, shortly after our hot encounter from "Butter hasn't been this erotic since Tango in Paris" on our 2nd date. We were scheduled to meet for lunch at a large Mexican restaurant, which happens to be right in the middle of a high-tech industrial park here in Silicon Valley. So, it is very popular with the lunchtime business crowd.

When I pulled into the parking lot, I saw Leila standing outside wearing a skin tight, white, lycra-spandex T-shirt... braless! I think that she planned her early arrival just so she could be on display for me like that, and to tease me with thoughts of other men approaching her before me. Her firm, plump breasts and erect nipples strained at the material, like one of those Sport Illustrated models that you see now in the annual swimsuit issue, done up with body paint. That is a glimpse of Leila in the photo above, in that same snug white T-shirt, pretty much as she appeared that hot summer day.

Can you imagine being greeted by this vision of such an erotic, voluptuous woman... at lunch? This was mid-day, and right in the midst of the predominantly male techie business crowd! They must have been tripping over themselves walking past Leila as they made their way into the restaurant.  I wasn't sure I could even walk into the restaurant when I saw her, for fear that my hardon would be so obvious.

On that day, Leila's female hormones and animal instinct were raging with NRE! She knew what an affect she would have on me, and she was showing me how much she was lusting for me!  Wearing that T-shirt, braless, was not what you would typically see at that restaurant, even in the evening. To say that she was oozing sex is an understatement.

We did manage to walk into the restaurant somehow, though at that point eating lunch was the furthest thing from my mind. We were led to a table in a room near the back, past the large central dining room, which required us to walk past table after table of astonished men. I saw jaws drop, conversations stop in mid-sentence, and heads spin to follow Leila as she strutted in front of me. DAMN, I thought.. and she is with me! This was an entirely new experience for me, being with a woman that all the other men were lusting for.

When we were seated, I asked Leila.. "did you see all the men's heads turn to look at you as you walked past"?  She said she did not, and I truly believe that was not her focus. At that point in time, Leila had not yet discovered how hot she is, and what she does to all men... not just me.  Now, we enjoy re-enacting such scenes whenever we can.

I don't know how we managed to actually get through lunch, but I am sure that I was throbbing the entire time. When we left the restaurant, I brought Leila to my car, and we found a semi-secluded spot in the shade at the far reaches of the parking lot. I parked, and we kissed lustfully, while barely resisting the urge to rip each other's clothes off right there. The excitement of being in a public place, combined with Leila's hot body so provocatively on display, stimulated a very memorable erotic episode. Leila thankfully unzipped my pants to let my engorged cock free, and proceeded to take me once again deep in her mouth. It was exquisite torture, and she still loves to do that. I am indeed, a very lucky man.

The lesson here? Nurturing your HotWife can bring back that early relationship sexual energy. By  vicariously connecting with the arousal that I know other men are feeling, it is almost like I was seeing Leila put her sexuality on display for the very first time, that hot summer day at the Mexican restaurant.  Now, of course, when we are at a night club or lifestyle event, her provocative dress has the potential to stimulate even hotter sexual activity!

If there is a tip here for SMs it is this: 

Tip #10: Understand what it means to enjoy HotWives at all of the levels that the "lifestyle" can offer. 

For us, this means that we integrate HotWife energy into our lives in many different ways.  On occasion, it may be just as exhibitionists, which you can at least enjoy as a voyeur. Each level of play is there to be enjoyed in different ways.  This is the erotic joy of having a HotWife. This is also why we say in our Tip #6, if you see a woman out with her man, acting like a HotWife.. take a chance! Don't be afraid to engage.You never know where it might lead.

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